因为加入了一个英文演讲学习小组，转一下自己一些学习期间写的短演讲稿，算是一个记录吧。

Last week, my mom and I had a little argument. The reason was that she was `overly concerned` about my work. Besides checking the surveillance cameras in my store every day, she also inquired about every business transaction in detail and tried to tell me what to do based on her lack of business experience. I got angry directly, she felt very sad, and I felt guilty because of that. Later, I sent her a message telling her that I love her very much, I also know that she loves me , but I am an adult and I don`t like being interfered with too much. My mom said, `Ok.As long as you`re doing well.` So we made up.

I think that things such as arguments over boundaries happen in all families.

Especially in Chinese families, we are very close and deeply involved in each other`s lives. Many people even continue to live with their parents after getting married and having children, and finances are also shared. Therefore, boundaries are often blurred.

Have you ever experienced these situations in your family: 1. Family members trying to peek at your diary/phone/messages. 2. Sharing your embarrassing stories or photos publicly. 3. Taking away or throwing away your belongings without your consent. 4. Overly interfering with your decisions regarding studying, dressing,making friends, choosing a career, or romantic relationships. 5. Money issues. 6. Asking you to do something you don`t want to do, such as performing in front of relatives.

How do you feel when this happens? Resentful, angry, embarrassed, hopeless, or something else? This is exactly why we need to establish boundaries, so that we can defend each other`s autonomy, create an environment full of love and respect, and achieve a happy life.

Setting healthy boundaries in a family can be challenging, Because we cannot keep our distance like strangers, we need to be together every day, and we hope to be happy with each other and achieve a win-win situation.

So it is necessary for maintaining a positive and respectful relationship.

There are three ways to set boundaries effectively.

Firstly, it is important to clearly communicate your needs and expectations to your family members. This can be done through open and honest conversations.

Secondly, it is crucial to prioritize love and understanding in the process of setting boundaries. This means considering the feelings of all family members involved and striving for a win-win situation.

Lastly, it is essential to establish consequences for crossing boundaries, while also being willing to compromise and adjust boundaries when necessary.

By following these steps, families can create a healthy and harmonious environment.

Whether you are an adult or a child, establishing boundaries to shape the family environment that we rely on for survival will be an important step towards our happiness.

May you all can be happy and be happy with your family.